Regardless of the costs or the benefits of doing or not doing something, however, a “should” doesn’t really tip the scale in a way that prompts you to always do what you wish to do. In fact, how many times have you told yourself you should do something, and then didn’t do it? “Shoulds” don’t really work, and they make life much harder, to boot. If you understand your reasons for wishing to do or not do something rather than relying on a “should” to push you to try it.

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