If you don’t have a counter, place pennies in one pocket and transfer a penny to the other pocket each time you think or say “should,” and then place the “should” pennies (or other tokens if you’re short of pennies) in a jar so that you can see the full weight of the tyranny under which you live. As you become more aware of how often your “shoulds” push you around, you’ll find it easier to let go of “shoulds” and watch them drift away.

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